Success is a terminal state we all want to reach, one designed to highlight stacks of Benjamins, loads of cars and fancy houses where the worries drown and the smiles are everlasting. What most people don’t realize but would if they just thought about it for a second is that Success is a continuous habit, it isn’t a state. Success is like a river, in that, if its stops flowing, you, no longer are successful Hence, there is no mountain top, it is a fleeting state of practice that continuously keeps you afloat, or… you drown.. Thats it.
Successful people often never find the finite moment where they consider themselves to have achieved success, instead, it’s a continuous patterns that they keep emulating until it becomes second nature. Unlike the Hollywood paradigm, success occurs when drive and ambition outweighs vision. When your work ethic is measured by frequency and not by quantifiable hours. When contentment means to find the next achievable goal and not sedentary praise.
And so, how does one actually go about achieving this tangible, yet fleeting state of success?
The first ideology that’s common to all successful folks is the thirst or drive. Your drive has to be eternal and innate. Without it, there’s only so much a calculated algorithm can do.
The second is repetition or consistency. We are all driven by a goal or achievement, tangible or not, but it is what we do and how often we do it that makes all the difference. As Michael Jordan stated “I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed” Repetition and consistency allowed MJ to win as many games as he has, because the world only sees the high’s and often forgets the low’s… but only if your highs outweigh your lows. In Mj’s case, his misses are an afterthought because of his repetitive mastery of his craft for a decade.
The third is to have a quantifiable means of achieving your goal and understanding what you must to do to get it. Everything requires sacrifice, and to what to extent will you sacrifice and for how long? Do you have the right resources? If not, how will you get them? Do you have the right equipment, access or time to do what you deem to be successful?
The fourth and most important is your ability to accept failure and compromise/tweak your vision to understand achievable versus not. This isn’t to say that you give up on your dreams and take a detour, but it does mean that you will often learn that your dreams lived to some degree, only in the figment of your imagination. So what part of that are you willing to lose and replace it so that your end goal remains the same, but changes were needed to make it a reality?
The fifth is the ability to be stubborn in your vision because of the value you understand that it has. Be it a product, service or intangible goal for your personal life, your adamance to get it done must not waver.
Need some examples?
We all know Bill Gates dropped out of college. But what we aren’t told is that his mother was a librarian. The time that he invested in the library while skipping school is not something any of us would do. He figured that the education that he was provided was a uni-dimensional way of thinking. He had an itch, a tick, a bug, what ever you wish to call it and made it an obsession. Obsessive traits are said to be unhealthy, but I’m not so sure about it. If your obsession prevents you from food and hygiene, yes it can be argued as such, but otherwise, its perfectly fine. A maniacal desire to learn and master a craft or an area is the prerequisite to living atop the mountain.
Moral Of The Story:
What do all of these guys have in common? They have spent an incredibly amount of time maniacally obsessed with their craft. They don’t keep a count of their wins and losses, their only goal is to get to their destination, no matter what. They are ALL STUBBORN individuals who do not take no for an answer.
On the other hand, here are tell tale signs of unsuccessful people, product or businesses:
- Eternally sedentary. The person, product or service refuses to change with the needs of the world or environment
- Money is the benchmark of success. A product that is useful, or a person that is so knowledgeable will create its own demand, it won’t have to ask for it.
- Refusal to accept mistakes. Getting personal is one of the biggest mistakes that occur amongst individuals.
- Relying upon the benchmark of others instead of setting it themselves.
- Finding the fault in others.
- Drawing premature conclusions and assumptions. This is the most common trait amongst unsuccessful individuals